Your Son Didn’t Get Rejected Because He’s White

Ivy League Admission, Race in Admission, Race in Ivy Admission
We are frustrated by a leap of logic in a letter to “The Atlantic.”

We came across a “Dear Therapist” letter in “The Atlantic” that we just had to share with our readers. In a letter to Lori Gottlieb, Lisa from Mendham, New Jersey writes, “My son is in the middle of the college-application process. He has very good grades and very good SAT and ACT scores; he is an Eagle Scout and a captain of the cross-country team. He is also white, male, and upper-middle-class—and that is the problem. According to all of the statistics and reports, he should be accepted at Ivy League schools, but he has not been. He will eventually get into a ‘good’ school, but it is my guess (based on what we are seeing with his peer group) that he will be overqualified for the school he ends up at.” And we of course are disgusted by the writer’s concerns.

Ivy League Schools Don’t Want Well-Rounded Students

Lisa, you wrote that your son has not been accepted at Ivy League schools, presumably deferred or denied admission in the Early round. You then write that he has very good grades and scores and you list that he’s an Eagle Scout and runs cross country before citing his white race and stating “that is the problem.” Oh but we beg to differ. In fact, if your son presented himself in his college applications in a way similar to how you’ve presented him in your letter to “The Atlantic,” we’re quite confident why he hasn’t earned admission to an Ivy League school.

Ivy League schools aren’t seeking out Eagle Scouts. They’re not seeing out cross country runners unless those student-athletes are fast enough to get recruited by the university’s cross country coach. If not, this activity only serves to make an applicant well-rounded and, as our loyal readers know oh so well, highly selective colleges like the Ivy League colleges haven’t been seeking to admit well-rounded students for decades. Rather, they wish to admit singularly talented students, students who excel in one particular area that will help the admitting college.

There’s No Such Thing as ‘Qualified’ for Admission to the Ivy League

Lisa, there is no such thing as being “qualified” in Ivy League admission. Tons of applicants with perfect or near-perfect grades and scores are denied admission year after year. Harvard could fill an entire incoming class — and then some — denying students with perfect or near-perfect grades and scores. To suggest that your son is qualified for admission is nonsense. Admission to America’s elite universities is a holistic process. Qualified? Eradicate this word from your vocabulary when it comes to your son’s case for admission.

Misconceptions About Ivy League Admissions Can Lead to Racist Leaps of Logic

You see, Lisa’s assertions are based on misconceptions about the highly selective college admissions process, misconceptions perpetuated by students, parents, school counselors, private college counselors, and others. But then when she takes the giant leap by asserting that her son’s white race is “the problem” — it’s utterly mind-boggling. If she wants to believe as much, she has that right. But it would have been nice if the therapist responding to the letter in “The Atlantic” called her out on her misguided sense of the college admissions process rather than contribute to the vicious cycle by perpetuating this misconception.


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  • Veritas says:

    Look, race is a factor in college admissions. Lesser qualified minorities are admitted over better qualified white and Asian students for diversity reasons. You may have heard Harvard is being sued about this.

  • elizabeth says:

    As usual, you hit the nail on the head Ivy Coach.

  • leslie rene says:

    it’s not abou “ why a college should admit you”, it’s about what you have to give. Maybe if the Track runner, spent a good portion of his time running races for charity and raised a significant amount of money for a cause or said he loves running and wants to use his time and talents to develop prosthetic legs for people that can not walk,
    or uses his experience as a runner to aid marathon runners with disabilities , the applicant would come across as someone who empathizes with others and has some humility. Anyone can get good grades and get good test scores , but very few see the bigger picture

  • R Videla says:

    Disgusted by the writer’s concerns?
    What an obnoxious reply, Ivy Coach, dripping with elitist arrogance and haughty disdain for anyone who still believes that those who work their tails off in High School are actually qualified to be admitted to, and to attend, an Ivy. Highly intelligent, hard-working students who also participate in sports and other extra-curriculars are absolutely qualified, even if they are….god forbid….caucasian, or straight, or from the east coast, or not a bassoonist. You Ivy Elites should reconsider what truly makes a person “qualified.” You’ve twisted the admissions game into a mockery of hard-work in an effort to create a culture of diversificlusion. The long-term ramifications of this game will reap a generation of mediocrity.
    Oh, and Ivy Coach, I’d hazard a guess that you are a childless but oh, so woke millennial who toasts the day no earlier than 9 am with an overpriced latte. When you’ve matured and have the audacity to breed, perhaps you’ll have a slightly less arrogant opinion, watching your progeny’s talents be rejected by someone who you once were. That would be assuming you’d have the ability to produce intelligent and Ivy “qualified” progeny, which is unlikely in itself.

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