The Ivy Coach Daily

February 14, 2014

Love in College Essays

We advise you not to write about love in your college essays (photo credit: Amanda).

On this Valentine’s Day, we’ve got some advice regarding love in college essays. If you’re applying to a highly selective college in the next year or couple of years, we urge you not to write about your romantic interests in your admissions essays. Don’t write about that time when you first kissed your girlfriend under a moonlit suburban street. Don’t write about that time when you had the courage to go up and ask a boy out. That’s great that you did that. But do not write about it in your college admissions essays. Don’t write about falling in love. Don’t write about how a breakup changed your life. Don’t write about how much your girlfriend means to you.

College admissions officers do not want to read about your love life. They don’t care. Who cares about a sixteen year-old’s love life anyway? Unless it’s in a movie like “Perks of Being A Wallflower.” In fact, don’t write about love at all. It’s too big of a topic. Tackle a smaller topic. The best college admissions essays come from the smallest of topics. Not big ones like love and war. Writing about seemingly nothing is much better than writing about a whole lot.

So just as you should avoid writing about your deceased grandfather, your service trip to South Africa, your come from behind race in which you won in spite of having a sore left big toe, don’t write about your love life. Nobody cares — and especially not admissions officers at highly selective colleges. But we do wish you a very happy Valentine’s Day! Or “House of Cards” Day. Whichever you prefer.

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